I never knew what it was to really love unconditionally until I had Miguel.
Throughout our lifetime, we experience different forms of love. We have love for our parents, our siblings, our friends, our spouse, and our children. Normally, we grow in our love for them because of so many reasons. And those reasons include mostly what they’ve done for us.
We love our parents because we know they’ve sacrificed a lot to raise us up. We love our siblings because we know they’d be there whenever we would need them. We love our friends for being there for us to make us laugh, support us or just keep us company. We love our spouse because they are the half that made us whole. And we love our children because they make us feel complete.
But, what if all those reasons are absent? What if that human being will never be able to reciprocate the love you’ve given him? What if is he is not capable of loving us back?
This is what I realized when Miguel came to my life. Having limitations in his physical and mental capacity, he is lacking in the ability to display emotions at will. He is not even socially responsive yet.
While my other children hug me back when I hug them, Miguel just passively accepts it. While I enjoy kisses from my three girls, Miguel is yet to know the functions of his lips. While his sisters make me laugh with their dance moves, Miguel is yet to know how to use his legs.
But I love him just the same.
He may be able to learn to express himself. He may be able to show me he loves me. He may learn to wrap his arms around me and give me kisses. He may learn some dance moves from his sisters. And he may be able to say “I love you, mom.”
But until then, I will continue to love him… unconditionally.